Jumping into the New Year Strong
Calgary Life Coaching and Grief Recovery Support
I am not a massive fan of setting New Year’s Resolutions as I think we spend a lot of time “waiting” to start doing the things we should have been doing yesterday. We often want to wait until we have more money, or wait until it’s warmer outside, or wait until we lose a bit of weight.
I say, WHY WAIT?
Over the last few months, I have been searching high and low for ways to balance out my life and create more space for me to be present and enjoy the things that matter most to me, like my growing family.
I realized that I had to decide what I was going to do myself and what I was going to delegate because, in case you weren’t aware, we can’t always DO IT ALL. With the help and unconditional support of my amazing life partner Scott, I finally decided to hire people to help me with the “business” side of my business.
I love my business, and there is nothing I enjoy more than helping those who are struggling to make changes in their life or who are suffering from unresolved grief. I know exactly how debilitating those things can be, and I have learned so much over the years that I want to share now.
I have always known this was my passion, but it took me years to finally make it my life’s work. I spent many years “wishing” instead of “doing” until tragedy changed my life, and I had to make several decisions that I am now helping others make in their own lives.
When I found myself struggling with the technical side of things and how to keep up with the ever-growing online marketing, I became burnt out, and what I loved was being overpowered by what I hate.
Instead of allowing myself to get discouraged, I decided to invest in myself and my business and start getting the help that I needed in the areas I DON’T excel in.
This brings me to the good news, over the next month or so, you will be noticing new programs and content on topics related to grief, mindset, goal setting, etc., that I have been spending months creating.
I have been busy.
On top of that, I will have a whole new website created by a fantastic team of people who took the time to get to know me, my passion, and my vision for the future. Without them, I would still be banging my head against the wall, trying to learn about SEOs, website design, and all things online marketing.
I share this because I know how difficult it can sometimes be to go from where we are to where we want to be, and I genuinely believe it will happen in time if we don’t give up.
I have spent many hours confused, discouraged, in tears, frustrated, and wondering how the hell I am ever going to make this a living. Each day I make small steps, and I have found as I stay committed to doing that, the doors keep opening.
Each time I sit down with someone who is a season of life where they either don’t know where they want to go next or they don’t know how to complete the necessary daily tasks because of their overbearing grief, I am beyond grateful to be able to help them through that, with the tools I have learned through education, people who inspire me and my own personal experience.
We do not have to stay stuck in our lives or our grief, and the passion I have for those who need help with this is what drives me to keep going. Every single person is going to go through extremely hard times at some point in their life, if not several times, and it is my job to make sure they see the light again, as I know through many personal experiences that it is always there if you look for it.
That is my Why.
I share this today because I want to encourage you to always think about your “Why” when you are just about to give up.
I share all of this with you today because the struggle is real, and I want everyone to know that I have been stumbling through this new career for almost three years now. It just keeps getting better and better but not without loads of failures, do-overs, and days of complete and utter frustration.
Change is not easy, and growth does not come without obstacles.
Let me be the first to tell you that if you have a dream, whether big or small, and you can’t stop thinking about it, YOU HAVE TO GO FOR IT. Please don’t think it comes easy for any of us and that you shouldn’t be stumbling through parts of it at times.
If it came easy, we’d all be doing it.
Let’s all make a vow this 2020 to allow ourselves to fail and to be okay with that. Let’s be okay with not always needing to know everything, but moving forward anyway. Let’s give ourselves permission to seek help, and let’s stop banging our heads against the wall when we can’t figure something out. Not knowing something is not a reason to quit.
Let me repeat, NOT KNOWING something is NO REASON to quit.
Our primitive brain will often try to protect us from doing things that are scary, like learning something new, because that is what it is meant to do. You must thank your brain for trying to protect you and then continue on with whatever it is that you are trying to do that is uncomfortable.
I can’t wait for what is to come this year, and my hope for you is that you too can find space and the right mindset to work towards your goals and ultimately find contentment in whatever way that looks for you.
Talk to you soon,